The caregiving revolution must be televised. I can't ease my way into this topic. I can't tip toe around it in a colorful way. Caregivers have real issues & need real help.
I'm five years into the caregiving journey, and even longer than that if I counted the time when it was just my sister and I. But, at my level comes a peace. There is is an understanding that this is not going to be easy.
That I'll face challenges on all levels ranging from my health to my finances. The struggle is real. But, I'm finally at a point where I don't think about suicide; and I understand my happiness is essential to my family's success. But, there are a lot of caregivers who aren't at that point.
I know that’s hard to believe. Especially, since I’m so darn fly (just kidding, but not really). But, it’s sadly the truth. I went on a self-imposed “dating sabbatical” after my last online encounter. Click here if you want more information on that fiasco. But, all I can say is “Budweiser and Bullshit”. But, let’s get back to the present .
I’m ready to jump back into the "dating pool". But, I just realized something. How do you date when you’re a single “parent” with no kids? I know that sounds crazy. But, I can’t think of any other way to describe dating as a caregiver.
My Mom and Sister are my main priorities. They’re the first thing I think about in the morning, and the last thing I think about at night. Their well-being and happiness are the most important things in my life. Isn’t that what it’s like when you have children? They’re not my kids. But, they’re just as important. So, anyone I bring around them has to understand that. They also have to understand my time is limited.
I have to be available to drive my sister to work. I also have doctor’s appointments, and anything else necessary to keep this “ship” afloat. As I’ve said before, “I’m the Chauffer, Cook, Doctor, Psychiatrist, Comedian, etc." My roles are many, and I haven’t even touched the fact that I strive to have a life too.
Yes, I work out (even though I’m on strike at the moment. That’s another story), and I have a full time job that I love. On top of that I’m also sharing my life with you , and I have some good friends, that I spend time with occasionally. So, I’m pretty fulfilled. But, I’m missing a partner to share my life with.
I want that person who is my friend and partner in crime, who also happens to love my family just as much as I do. Everyone needs someone to love. But, caregivers especially need a loving partner.
We need a person that can be our strength when we feel weak, and our voice of reason when we’re off track. Caregiving can be so tough sometimes, and it’s not always easy to encourage yourself. Having a partner that supports, encourages, and prays for you can breathe life into our situations. It’s not always about someone paying your bills. It’s about that person being there, to help you be your best self. That’s what true love is all about.
That’s why I’m ready to jump back into the “dating pool”. I’m ready for my partner. I’m ready to open heart, and give the right person a chance to share my world. I’m not too sure how to go about that. So, I’m putting it out there in the universe, and I’m ready to receive.
I don’t know where this is going to take me. But, I’m glad you’re on the journey with me. Also, please share any advice you have on dating with kids or as a caregiver. Finding love can take a village, and I’m ready for some folks to guide my journey.
I’m all about saving money. As a caregiver, we have so many things we’re responsible for managing. So, saving money is a top priority to make sure we’re able to handle life’s little shifts. So, I can’t contain my excitement about a Dollar General coming to my neighborhood.
My parents used to shop at Dollar General all of the time to get great deals on household products, snacks, etc. I hadn’t been in one in such a long time, so this was like being a kid in a candy store when I walked through those doors. Especially, when I found out they have Digital Coupons that I could download right on my phone. I can’t tell you the countless times that I’ve gone into a store and forgot my coupons. With Dollar General that’s never a problem.
As I took a look around, I noticed a great deal on SCOTT® products. I’ve always loved their Choose-A-Sheet paper towels. They're perfect for my house. I do so much wiping, snack providing and nose blowing, that I need size options . I hate wasting paper, and Scotts paper towels help me take care of my family and save my coins. Plus, Dollar General has the Mega Roll 6 pack that includes bonus 15% sheets. So, I’m getting 9 rolls for the price of 6. That’s winning to me.
They also carry SCOTT® Extra Soft Bath Tissue and Scotts 1000. I love SCOTT® Bath Tissue. The Extra Soft is great, and Scotts no frill, no dye approach to bath tissue is perfect for my family. We have sensitive skin, so it’s essential that we use products that keep is simple and clean. SCOTT® Brand is a superior product with no frills – just the perfect choice for your paper product needs!"
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I can’t wait for my next trip to Dollar General! Let’s save money together. Until we met again.
Happy New Year everyone! We’re two days into 2016, and I’m so excited. I’m excited about the promise the year is going to bring. I know that sounds like the typical thing someone would be saying two days into the New Year. But, I’m truly expecting 2016 to be amazing. I’m making a conscious effort to leave fear, crazy, bitterness in the rearview of last year, and here’s some tips to help you join me.
But, first a quick disclaimer; I don’t have all of the answers. I wish I had this “caregiving thing” locked down. But, I don’t proclaim to be an expert. I’m just a caregiver who’s been caring for her mom and sister for a combined fifteen years. So, I’m letting my “battle wounds” stand as my “street cred” . So, here are some of the top tips I’ve learned.
Happy Holidays everyone! I hope you’ve had a great time filled with family, friends, laughter, and lots of food . I can’t believe Christmas has come and gone, and now we’re about to celebrate a new year.
2015 has really gone by quickly. But, it’s definitely been a year I won’t forget. How about you? As I sit here and reflect briefly on all the things I’ve experienced this year, I’m blessed to have gotten one of the most special “gifts” that I’ve ever received. This was the year that I realized that people have my back.