Finding the Funny in Caregiving Moments
I hope everyone has had a great week. We’ve survived the first week of 2015. I hope everyone is feeling good. Just take one thing at a time. Doesn’t that sound easier said than done? Believe me, I can’t believe I said that. But, I’m really working on being balanced and fulfilled this year. Speaking of balanced and fulfilled, how are your vision boards coming?
I’m ready to put them on the wall in my bedroom. I find myself looking at them everyday to help center myself. As a part of that quest for balance, I’m taking time to make sure I savor a moment that many caregivers tend to miss in the quest to take care of our families, the funny.
I know many people think that when you’re a caregiver there are not many funny moments. Don’t get me wrong, we are overwhelmed and stressed. But, we do have funny moments. The crazy thing is that they come at the most unexpected times. I experienced that this week with my mom.
My sister and I were getting ready for work, and were having our morning smoothies. As we were in the kitchen cleaning up and grabbing our lunches, Mom was watching Good Morning America. She loves that show, and now that her boo, Michael Strahan is on that show. Her life is not complete without watching it. Well. They were talking about how a Fed Ex delivery guy stole two dogs from a home he was making a delivery at. It was crazy because the security cameras videotaped the guy, and the dogs were recovered.
It was so great to show how crime doesn’t pay (especially, stupid crime). Well, that must have sparked my Mom to feel threatened, because all of a sudden here’s were the conversation took a crazy turn. Out of the blue, our Mom says, “ That’s why I need a pistol." " Bang Bang!"
My sister and I gave the biggest “eye roll” in history. Really! You need a gun because the Fed Ex man stole some dogs. Yep, because my Mom needs protection, I don’t know from whom. Especially, since she doesn’t open the door or go outside. Also, let’s not talk about the fact that she’s legally blind. I love my Mom with all of my heart. But, being legally blind is a “no bueno” when it comes to handling a firearm. But, believe it or not, that still wasn’t going to stop her.
So, after letting her know that wasn’t going to happen, and reminding her that she’s not “Annie Oakley”. She dropped the issue of getting a gun. It wasn’t because she decided that it didn’t make sense. She just realized that we had to go to work, and were not going to say “yes” EVER!! However, this is just a temporary reprieve. All it will take is a new moment to remind her of why she needs that pistol, and we’re back at this crazy convo again. For caregivers, we realize crazy moments come when we least expect it, because our families remember the darnedest things at the darnedest times.
Caregiving is just like having kids. So, that’s why you have to embrace the funny. Of course, you’re never going to feed into the crazy. But, the crazy can make you smile when you need it. When you’re balanced and fulfilled, you have that to keep you sane on the journey. So, embrace the funny and please share any funny moments you have.
Until we meet again! Have a wonderful week! Be open to the funny!