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Two sisters taking care of their mom while trying to live life and find love.

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Two sisters taking care of their mom while trying to live life and find love.


High School Life Lessons

Excuses are tools of incompetence, used to build monuments of nothing

This quote was something my 10th grade AP American History Teacher required that we learn and be able to recite on demand. Back then I didn’t understand the significance that this would hold for me. I didn’t understand this would help me navigate through business, relationships, or life.

Excuses are tools of incompetence used to build monuments to nothing. But, the funny thing is we use them constantly in our lives. We use excuses as reasons why we can’t complete tasks, why we don’t want to do something, why we don’t want to date someone, etc. The list of examples of how excuses have been used is endless. However, even with all of these endless uses, the result is always the same, nothing. Excuses are only temporary solutions. They are band-aids that will eventually peel back, and expose the wound or weakness.

I’ve had to dust this quote off recently. As a Caregiver, I’ve allowed some of these excuses to keep me from living. Obviously, I don’t mean actual “living”. But, I mean enjoying and savoring life. It’s so easy to say you can’t do something because ” I need to be home to take care of mom”; or ” I can’t go out tonight because I have to pick up my sister from work”. Again, it’s another endless list of reasons on why you can’t. When in actuality, its about you being “too afraid” to let go. Too afraid that if you let them find a way to do without you, you never really needed to make this sacrifice in the first place.

That’s a tough thought to face. But, we have all to face it. We all have to remember to take away the “can’t” and turn it into “can”. It’s not easy, it’s baby steps. But, those baby steps can free your heart & soul to do the things in life you were called to do. So, stop building monuments to nothing; and start laying bricks to your future. A happy and fulfilled caregiver, is the best caregiver in the world. Remember, all you can do is strive to be and do your best. The rest is irrelevant :-). Until we meet again!


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