Self-Care and Caregiving
Are you taking care of "You?" Have you ever asked yourself that question? I know I didn't. But, I've started thinking about it more and more. Especially, since I became a caregiver to my mom.
I always say my life changed in the matter of three hours on December 20, 2010. That's the day my father died, and my mom came to live with my sister and I. I went immediately into super saver caregiver mode, and I've never looked back. The next five years would go on to be filled with cursing, crying, depression, stress, laughter, hope, and love. That's quite a cycle isn't it? But, that's a caregiver life. We give so much of ourselves to others; that you sometimes forget about the most important person in this, you.
When was the last time you got your nails done? Or had a good night's sleep that led to you sleeping in the next morning? How about having a good time laughing with your friends? If you answered, "I don't know" or "No" to any of those questions. Your self-care game needs work.
Because, you deserve it and your family's happiness is dependent on your happiness. That means we need to remember a few key points.
1. Rest is essential to our lives: That means we need a nap or moments of relaxation daily. Sleep is not overrated, & we're more patient when rested.
2. It's ok to ask for & get help: That means you shouldn't feel
guilty about asking family, friends you trust or hiring help to assist with getting things done. We can't do everything, and the more we try to do everything, the more stressed we become. So, fall back .
3. It's ok to say "No": Sometimes you have to say "No" to your family, friends, or job when they put demands on your time that don't work for your schedule. You have to do what works for you, not everyone else.
4. You're doing the best you can: I truly believe that most caregivers are giving 110%. So, don't let anyone that doesn't live your journey dictate to you. No one is perfect. Just remember if everyone is fed, happy, and loved. You're #Winning!
5. Your attitude is essential to your success: If you constantly focus on what's not working, that's all you're going to get. You set the tone. So, make sure your attitude is realistically positive. That means you know this isn't the best situation. But, you wouldn't change a thing and feel blessed to have this opportunity.
Caregiving is not a spectator sport. You have to be willing to fight for your family, and your sanity. You have to take the time to care for yourself. This is the fight of a lifetime. So, let's train together.
Please share with me what you do for self-care, and let's all win.
Until we meet again!