The Perfect Balance
It’s amazing how love and forgiveness go together. Each an integral part of the other. But, always being spoken about like it’s two separate things. I guess you don’t really start to make the connection until you have to really think about it..
I’ve had the opportunity to think about it a lot lately. Between battles at home with my mom, to health challenges with my aunt. I’ve had a front row seat to witnessing how integral love and forgiveness are to each other. No matter how angry you are with someone you love, when they need you, it’s amazing how love makes you forget anything that happened. This is not a permanent solution to the problem. But, it definitely shows how love can move things to the back burner pretty quickly when needed.
This is especially critical to remember as a caregiver. This role always means that you are the one making the hard and unpopular decisions. So, you take the brunt of the complaints. These complaints of course are not always given with kind words; and they often are laced with some “choice words” that would make the most patient person go HAM :).
However, as a caregiver that is one of the points where rubber meets the road. You can go HAM back, and let the battle begin (I’ve chosen this route before). Or, you can remember the old adage “Sticks and Stones may break my bones. But, words can never hurt me”. See they were schooling us back on the playground to not get upset over someone else’s perception of us. This of course is the option that most of us have a difficult time choosing.
It’s so easy to be angry because you have so much pent up frustration at times that it’s right below the surface, chilling out waiting for a moment to seep out. It’s just a matter of time and opportunity. However, love is always there too. Love is what gets you through the days that make you feel like you want to give up. Love is also what helps you remember that this moment is temporary. So, don’t make a permanent decision in a temporary situation. It’s the love that leads to forgiveness.
Love reminds you that this is someone you would lay your life down to protect. So, if you are willing to make that level of sacrifice, you have to be willing to forgive them when they say things that hurt your feelings. You have to remember that the forgiveness is not for them, it’s for you. Forgiveness makes you lighter. You’re not weighed down by anger. It allows you to focus on the person, and the moments that you have to share. That’s what life and love is all about. It’s about savoring the moments that make life worth living; and forgiving the moments that weigh you down.
Love and forgiveness are like “yin yang”, two emotions going in opposite directions that always lead back to each other. Embrace love in all you do, and forgiveness will be there when things go off course. Until we meet again!