Vision Is Not Just About A Board For Caregivers
Happy New Year! We made it! I’m so excited about all of the things that 2015 can hold for all of us. I’m almost done with my vision boards. I think I went a little overboard with three. But, I needed to organize my thoughts a little better .
As a caregiver, I tend to think so much about my mom and sister; that I’m all over the place when it comes to goal setting for myself. Does anyone else ever feel that way? I’m blessed that I was able to do a lot in 2014. But, I know that if I want to do extraordinary things in 2015. I have to be willing to do something I’ve never done before. So, that means I need to put some “vision” to my goals.
Now believe me, I don’t want to add anything extra to your plate or mine. Our plates are “super full”. But, having something to focus on is motivating. It may even be that one thing that can lift you up when times get hard.
Think back on a moment when you felt overwhelmed. I remember when I first became a caregiver that was my everyday mode of life. I remember one night in particular when I came home from work, and my mom met me at the door. The first thing she said was, “Are you planning on leaving your sister and I to make it on our own?” I guess “Hello, how was your day?” was not appropriate .
I proceeded to argue with her. That’s how I handled things back then. I couldn’t calm down and think rationally back then. I was operating in stress, anger, resentment, and grief. In my mind there was nothing to look forward to anymore. My only goal and vision at that point was surviving. I stayed in that space for about two and a half years. I still battle those feelings every once in a while. They don’t go away. I just made the decision to live, and I refuse to let fear take that away from me.
That’s where vision boards come in to play now. You have to make the choice to see your life in a different way. You have to decide that you want to live again in spite of the challenges your facing. Caregiving doesn’t end overnight. This is a commitment that can last for a long time. Without having goals or vision for how you want your life to be, where does that leave you?
I was afraid that I would be “empty “at the end of my journey. I would’ve given everything to my family, and have nothing left for me. Having a vision board and goals has allowed me to have something to aspire to during the tough moments. It’s also helped me be better. I find when I’m happier, so are my mom and sister.
So, take a chance and put some thoughts together on what you want to accomplish. Start small and make it something that you really want to do. It can be as simple as taking a class. Just do something for you. You deserve it!
I really want us to make this a balanced and fulfilled 2015. So, I’m periodically going to share my progress with you. Please share your progress with me. Let’s celebrate successes together, and regroup when things get tough. It takes a village to be a caregiver, and I’ve got your back!
Until we meet again! Here’s to a balanced and fulfilled 2015!