Hello everyone! I can’t believe a week has officially passed since I was in Miami at Blogalicious 9. It feels like I’m still there. But, I think that’s because I had so much fun & connected with some amazing people. Blogalicious is a yearly conference put together by the Be Blogalicious Influencer Community/Network. This network is filled with amazingly talented men and women who are committed to helping others navigate this complicated influencer space.
Be Blogalicious is inclusive of everyone. But, they do an excellent job of helping address the needs of multi-cultural influencers. This can be a tricky space for us, and representation often has to be fought for. But, Be Blogalicious tackles those challenges head-on with definite style and grace. That’s not surprising since it’s founder, Stacey Ferguson is masterful at using her expert skills of negotiation and strategy to make magic happen. Stacey is a former attorney, who leveraged her knowledge and love to develop others into an influencer network that partners with brands such as Wells-Fargo, KIA, Jack Daniels, etc. But, behind every great woman, there is an amazing team or tribe. So, when she decided to drop the “major keys” to how to get that done. I was sold and definitely needed to make sure I attended again.
I attended my first Blogalicious in 2016. It was in Atlanta, and I can’t tell you how it changed me. I was able to connect with amazing ladies. I met one of my favorite authors, Luvvie Ajayi (Awesomely Luvvie: You must check out her book, “I’m Judging You”) and I really for the first time felt that I was on the path to doing something that aligned with my purpose to help others. It was sheer magic. I think what I forgot about, was how I was going to get there.
Going to conferences is super cool. Getting lots of beautiful swag is epic. But, after the conference is where the rubber hits the road. How do you go about hitting all of the goals you set? Also, who’s going to help you? Because if you’re set up like me, you need help ASAP! Man, I’m literally trying to work a full-time job, take care of my family, keep my skin moisturized, my spirit clear and be open to a relationship while being an influencer. The struggle is real with these first world problems. So, I have no time or patience to waste.
That’s why Blogalicious 9 was exactly what I needed. It was nice to connect with other people living the dream and struggle too. See, many people out there will have you thinking that their life is perfect. But, those are straight lies. Everyone I met was looking for a better way to balance it all. That’s where having the right “tribe” comes in.
A lot of times we think it’s going to be friends or family. But, often than not, its people you step outside of your comfort zone to get to know. You have to build your tribe based on what you need to get to the next level. That means you have to look at where you are in the building process and be willing to get uncomfortable. Are you willing to get uncomfortable to get to your next level? Also, it may mean cutting off relationships that don’t align with your vision.
We’ve all had those people in our lives that give you backhanded compliments or hurtful feedback. They often don’t even know that they’re doing it. But, they’re tearing down your dreams because they don’t have any of their own. Those folks have to go. God gave each of us an assignment. You can never let anyone’s perceptions of they think you are, or what you should do block that assignment. What’s for you is for you.
We also talked about the need for mentors. There are many people out there who are “life coaches”, etc. You have to find the person that connects to your plans, believes in you, and holds you accountable to following through. That can be a paid relationship or not. It just depends on your circumstances. Invest in yourself like you do when you travel, buy clothes, shoes, Starbucks, etc. You’re worth it!
Blogalicious 9 was amazing and has definitely given me some tools to tighten up my tribe. I don’t have it all mapped out yet. I feel like my tribe is evolving. But, I have a better blueprint of how to make it what I need. Between that and all of the amazing people I met, I feel like it was time well spent and needed. So, I challenge you to invest in yourself. Research a conference, webinar, coaching session, etc. that will help you be better and go. We only have one life to live. Make it the best life possible by investing in yourself.
I just wanted to hop on and share a video with you. Mental Health is a topic we don't talk enough about. I hope my journey can help you or someone you know. Thank you Brittany Minor a.k.a "Clumps of Mascara for inspiring me to share. Mental Health isn't a 31 day conversation, this is a lifetime journey and we all need to support each other.
Here are the tips that I shared in the video. They've really helped me on the journey & I pray they help you too.
1) Write it down- Sharing your feelings on paper can help you when saying them is just not an option.
2) Don't be judgemental- We all struggle and we can learn from each other.
3) Change the narrative- Understand the power of your words and thoughts. Don't forget you have the power to change your life.
4) Pray constantly or find your faith- My faith in God grounds me.
5) Forgive yourself- It's not always going to be perfect. But, that's ok. Understand that these momentary setbacks or issues are temporary. They only become permanent if you let it be that way.
Finally, be good to yourself. You're so worth it! Mental Health is a daily fight and I'm here with you. Until we meet again!
I hope your weekend was great. I wanted to do a check in post to see how everyone was doing, and I thought it would be great to do a vlog. So, here you go! I'm trying to "step into the light", so no shadows or excuses are going to come from me . I hope you enjoy it, and don't forget to let me know how I can help you live your best life. Let's win together .
Hi everyone! How’s your week going? Has anyone else been struggling with getting back into your routine? My mind still feels like it’s on vacation . I’m getting it together. But, the struggle is so real. Oh well, this is our year to “step into the light”; so I’m hoping the sun can wake me up .
Speaking of “stepping into the light”, how’s that going for you? What have you been doing to get closer to making your dreams a reality? Remember, you weren’t born to stay in the shadows. You were meant for greatness, and the only way to get closer to your purpose is to be intentional with everything in your life.
I know it can be hard to make time for “you.” But, you can’t let that be an excuse. You’re too valuable to the world and your family to be mediocre. So, I want to share five tips that I’m following to live my best life possible.
Invest in yourself: Do something that will enhance you as a person. I’m continuing with my love of audiobooks and podcasts to expose me to new people and ways of thinking. Step out of your comfort zone, you never know where it may take you.
Take care of yourself physically and mentally: I’ve started a “lifestyle change” this year. I’m working out 3-4 times per week, and watching my diet by reducing carbs and sugar. I’m pre-diabetic with a genetic predisposition towards developing Type II Diabetes. So, I’ve made the decision that it’s time to take care of me. My body is a temple, and I need to value it.
Connect with people who will pull you into the light: There are going to be people you come across that speak directly to your soul. You know those people that you feel like you’ve known for years, but you may have just met. Connect with those people immediately. Ask them to lunch, coffee, etc.; just make sure you reach out to them. There is purpose in those connections, and you don’t want to potentially miss your purpose due to shyness or procrastination.
Take a chance: Believe in yourself, and go do something. We tend to be the biggest obstacles in our lives. Stop letting F.E.A.R. (False Evidence Appearing Real) dictate your life. Remember you’re capable of accomplishing anything you put your mind on. There is never failure in trying. There is only failure when you do nothing.
Remember you’re the happiness you’re seeking: I say this often, and I’ll keep saying it until we all remember this without hesitation. “Your happiness is key to everything. No one in your home will be happy, unless you’re happy.” You have to do the work to find your happy. Happiness doesn’t just happen.
You have to invest time and energy into yourself, to discover what makes your heart sing. Remember, you’re worth it.You have to become a top priority in your life.
My next post is going to be on “self-care”. So, let me know what you want to learn more about in the comments. This is our journey, so we’re in this together . Until we meet again, do something for you today!
Part of my journey involves continuing to do things that scare me, and being the love that I want to attract in my life. So, that led me to sit down and have an amazing conversation with Jay Mayo of Right To Real Love.
I had the opportunity to connect with Jay Mayo at Blogalicious 8 in October. Check out my recap of that amazing experience here. Jay’s podcast for Right To Real Love is a Christian Based platform that is a resource for all of us on the journey to be loved the right way. The Right to Real Love community is very active, and really strives to apply practical tips that can impact every area of our life.
Our conversation was on standards, and the importance of stabling and reinforcing them to ensure you live your best life. Check out our conversation here. It’s broken down into three parts to make it work for your schedule.