Hi everyone! I hope your week has been amazing. It’s time to talk about the one thing that I struggle with, and I think a lot of people struggle with too. It’s time to talk about my journey, and how I took the leap to be transparent at all places, Blogalicious 8.
Be Blogalicious is a multicultural influencer organization that strives to create a place of inclusion, connection and collaboration. They have so many resources & the community is so inspiring. So, when I had a chance to attend their annual conference I knew I had to do it. With this being my “Year of Yes” too, I also took the chance and signed up to volunteer. I’m lo-key shy, so this was a big leap for me. But, the leap paid off, and I was selected for the “Social Squad”.
Hi everyone! Sorry about the quick break. But, with everything going on in the world, I needed to take a “pause for the cause.” My focus has really been off, and I’m praying for our world. This is such a challenging and pivotal time for us all. I pray that conversations, understanding and change come as a result of these tragedies. No life is in vain, and we all have an “assignment” in this world.
It’s so funny that “assignment” comes to my mind as I’m putting this post together. It makes me think about how my sister and I were raised. My parents raised us to be “conscious” of our culture and heritage. My parents felt it was their duty to ensure they gave us a full spectrum of what it would mean to be a black woman in America. They also wanted to ensure we learned about more than George Washington Carver and Martin Luther King Jr., since that was the extent of black history we were being taught in schools during our childhood.
Are you taking care of "You?" Have you ever asked yourself that question? I know I didn't. But, I've started thinking about it more and more. Especially, since I became a caregiver to my mom.
I always say my life changed in the matter of three hours on December 20, 2010. That's the day my father died, and my mom came to live with my sister and I. I went immediately into super saver caregiver mode, and I've never looked back. The next five years would go on to be filled with cursing, crying, depression, stress, laughter, hope, and love. That's quite a cycle isn't it? But, that's a caregiver life. We give so much of ourselves to others; that you sometimes forget about the most important person in this, you.
Mother is defined by Webster’s dictionary as a “woman who has given birth to a child or children.” Mother is also defined as an "elderly woman, someone who looks after someone kindly and protectively, sometime excessively so." There are so many different definitions, and yet they all go back to mothers being the givers and caretakers in life.
So, I guess that helps me explain why I’m celebrating Mother’s Day, even though I don’t have children. Yep, today is my day too, and I don’t feel bad about it. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to say I’m a “mother” in the truest sense of the world. But, I do have a “mother” and “sister” that rely on me every day to make it happen. I give them “life” by being a constant source of love and support for them. I would lay down my life with no question to ensure their happiness. I will be their loudest cheerleader, and their biggest “bodyguard”. Yes, this five foot tall woman can become a “giant” when it comes to taking care of my “divas .”
It’s been a crazy social April for us. The “travel bug” has bitten me, and I’m determined to make the most of it. Travel can be so challenging when you’re a caregiver. There’s so much planning that has to go into putting a trip together.
It’s a great chance to recharge, and you’ll be surprised how it can make everyone in your household happy. It was the perfect dose of “happiness” for my mom’s birthday.