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01January

Five Tips For Stepping Into The Light in 2017

Happy New Year everyone! I hope you've had an amazing holiday filled with family and friends. I just wanted to drop a quick vlog to kick off 2017. My plan for 2017 is to focus on "stepping into the light". I typically am a "behind the scenes" type of person. I always have felt comfortable just doing what I need to do, and moving on quietly. But, I'm learning that the call on my life is too big for that. 

I'm learning that my journey can help someone, so I can't be afraid to share it. So, I want you to take the journey of "stepping into the light" with me.  To kick things off, here are five tips to help you get started. Let me know what you think, and anything I can share that will make it easier for you. We're in this together :-).

 

 

1.  Here are some of my favorite books & podcasts:

     The Secret by Rhonda Byrne 

     The Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes

     I'm Judging You by Luvvie Ajayi 

     Heart and Hustle Podcast 

     Happy Black Woman Podcast 

    Stuff Mom Never Told You Podcast 

 

2. You're the happiness that you seek. When you're happy, everyone will be happy. Be open to being happiness, and make yourself a priority.

 

3. Take care of yourself physically. Do whatever you need to do to make your body/health a priority. Be proactive about your health.

 

4. Take the time to connect with people who will pull you into the light. Don't be afraid of people who make you step outside of your comfort zone. 

 

5. Just step out. Take a chance on yourself, and do the things that you never thought you could do. Don't let the end of 2017 look like the end of 2016. 

 

We've got this! This is just the beginning of our journey, it's not about perfection. It's about living our best life. Let's thrive in the sun together. I can't wait to hear about how you're doing. Until we meet again!

 

Xo

 

Posted in Front Page, Caregiving

11December

Realness and Blogalicious 8

Hi everyone! I hope your week has been amazing. It’s time to talk about the one thing that I struggle with, and I think a lot of people struggle with too. It’s time to talk about my journey, and how I took the leap to be transparent at all places, Blogalicious 8.

Be Blogalicious is a multicultural influencer organization that strives to create a place of inclusion, connection and collaboration. They have so many resources & the community is so inspiring. So, when I had a chance to attend their annual conference I knew I had to do it. With this being my “Year of Yes” too, I also took the chance and signed up to volunteer. I’m lo-key shy, so this was a big leap for me. But, the leap paid off, and I was selected for the “Social Squad”.

 

Social Squad boo, @pumpsandcircumstance
Social Squad boo, @pupmsandcircumstance and I having fun!

As a member of the “Social Squad” you work behind the scenes at the conference doing anything from putting gift bags together, to setting up stage settings for keynote talks. It was amazing! We worked hard, but the camaraderie of the “Social Squad” was amazing. Everyone was just down to help, and there were no egos. It was just a group of like-minded people getting it done. I definitely will submit to volunteer again.

 

But, that was only a part of the specialness of Blogalicious 8 for me. I learned so many great things from the speakers, and met my “She-Ro” Luvvie Ajayi. She is the amazing “Side-Eye Sorceress & “Wacky Wordsmith”, who is a NY Times Best-Selling Author of “ I’m Judging You”. You must check it out, everyone else is (e.g. Bono, Ava Duvernary, Uzo Adaba, Gabrielle Union, etc.), it’s a must read or listen!

 

Luvvie Ajayi & I
Luvvie Ajayi & I (This made my year!!)

I also got the opportunity to attend an amazing event with Jack Daniels. Jack Daniels is one of my favorite cocktails, and I’ve used it in recipes and as my drink of choice for years. I truly am a #FriendofJack. P.S. Their Winter Jack is impeccable. Definitely, try it out for a nice cider or hot toddy.

 

Winter Jack
Winter Jack Daniels Cocktail #FriendofJack

 

But, the highlight of my time at Blogalicious 8 was my time with AARP. I had an opportunity to share my caregiving story, and I didn’t realize how emotional that would be for me. I’m wrapping up year six of my journey with my mom & sister, and I can’t believe how far we’ve come. It’s amazing how time makes things more bearable when at first they seemed impossible.

 

I never thought I would be able to tell anyone about the times that I thought I wasn’t going to make it. Or, the times when I wanted to kill myself and leave my mom and sister to fend for themselves. I was so low, and I had to fight for them and my sanity. I feel so blessed to be where I am now. But, it wasn’t easy. It took a lot of honesty, faith and counseling to get where I am now. But, I thank God I made it. I thank God that he gave me the strength to remember that I made a vow to stand in my truth, if I made it through. So, I shared my journey and it went viral. I still can’t believe it. Over 200K people saw my story, and could identify with my journey. That’s such a blessing. That let me know that sharing my journey is the right path for my life. It also showed that I can be honest an real, and people will identify with me.

 As an influencer there’s always the pressure to make everything look so curated. But, life is not curated. People want realness, and that’s all I have time for anymore. I don’t have the energy or time to fake it. I’ll give you great content and beautiful images, but you can bet it’s going to be the real deal. So, be you and do you!

 

That’s the biggest lesson I learned at Blogalicious 8, and I’m so glad I took the time to invest in me. Invest in yourself, and you may be pleasantly surprised about what you learn. You deserve to live your most authentic life, and that only comes by being honest with yourself. So, take a chance on you! I can’t wait to hear about what you do!

 

 

Until we meet again!

 

Xo

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Posted in Front Page, Caregiving

18July

Growing Up Black and Conscious In America

Hi everyone! Sorry about the quick break. But, with everything going on in the world, I needed to take a “pause for the cause.” My focus has really been off, and I’m praying for our world. This is such a challenging and pivotal time for us all. I pray that conversations, understanding and change come as a result of these tragedies. No life is in vain, and we all have an “assignment” in this world.

It’s so funny that “assignment” comes to my mind as I’m putting this post together. It makes me think about how my sister and I were raised. My parents raised us to be “conscious” of our culture and heritage. My parents felt it was their duty to ensure they gave us a full spectrum of what it would mean to be a black woman in America. They also wanted to ensure we learned about more than George Washington Carver and Martin Luther King Jr., since that was the extent of black history we were being taught in schools during our childhood.

 

Conscious 

Posted in Front Page

15May

Self-Care and Caregiving

Are you taking care of "You?" Have you ever asked yourself that question? I know I didn't. But, I've started thinking about it more and more. Especially, since I became a caregiver to my mom.

I always say my life changed in the matter of three hours on December 20, 2010. That's the day my father died, and my mom came to live with my sister and I. I went immediately into super saver caregiver mode, and I've never looked back. The next five years would go on to be filled with cursing, crying, depression, stress, laughter, hope, and love. That's quite a cycle isn't it? But, that's a caregiver life. We give so much of ourselves to others; that you sometimes forget about the most important person in this, you.

Bloop
Image via Giphy

Posted in Front Page, Caregiving

08May

Caregiving and Mother's Day: Celebrating When You Don't Have Kids

Mother is defined by Webster’s dictionary as a “woman who has given birth to a child or children.” Mother is also defined as an "elderly woman, someone who looks after someone kindly and protectively, sometime excessively so." There are so many different definitions, and yet they all go back to mothers being the givers and caretakers in life.

So, I guess that helps me explain why I’m celebrating Mother’s Day, even though I don’t have children. Yep, today is my day too, and I don’t feel bad about it. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to say I’m a “mother” in the truest sense of the world. But, I do have a “mother” and “sister” that rely on me every day to make it happen. I give them “life” by being a constant source of love and support for them. I would lay down my life with no question to ensure their happiness. I will be their loudest cheerleader, and their biggest “bodyguard”. Yes, this five foot tall woman can become a “giant” when it comes to taking care of my “divas smile.”


Mother's Day
                                                                  They go hand in hand :-)

Posted in Front Page, Caregiving

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