It’s almost summertime, and it’s the perfect time to see some new places. Now, I know the first thing you’re going to say is, “Aren’t you a caregiver?” Yep, and I love to travel . So, this year I’m not letting the grass grow under my feet. I’m taking every opportunity to pack up the ladies and hit the road.
We just came back from Ft. Lauderdale for mom’s birthday in early April, and I wasn’t about to let the month end without going to see Beyoncé’ in Tampa. Who wants to miss a “Queen B” show? Tracey and I weren’t about to let that happen. So, it was time to strategize the best way to get there affordably with mom.
It’s been a crazy social April for us. The “travel bug” has bitten me, and I’m determined to make the most of it. Travel can be so challenging when you’re a caregiver. There’s so much planning that has to go into putting a trip together.
It’s a great chance to recharge, and you’ll be surprised how it can make everyone in your household happy. It was the perfect dose of “happiness” for my mom’s birthday.
I know that’s hard to believe. Especially, since I’m so darn fly (just kidding, but not really). But, it’s sadly the truth. I went on a self-imposed “dating sabbatical” after my last online encounter. Click here if you want more information on that fiasco. But, all I can say is “Budweiser and Bullshit”. But, let’s get back to the present .
I’m ready to jump back into the "dating pool". But, I just realized something. How do you date when you’re a single “parent” with no kids? I know that sounds crazy. But, I can’t think of any other way to describe dating as a caregiver.
My Mom and Sister are my main priorities. They’re the first thing I think about in the morning, and the last thing I think about at night. Their well-being and happiness are the most important things in my life. Isn’t that what it’s like when you have children? They’re not my kids. But, they’re just as important. So, anyone I bring around them has to understand that. They also have to understand my time is limited.
I have to be available to drive my sister to work. I also have doctor’s appointments, and anything else necessary to keep this “ship” afloat. As I’ve said before, “I’m the Chauffer, Cook, Doctor, Psychiatrist, Comedian, etc." My roles are many, and I haven’t even touched the fact that I strive to have a life too.
Yes, I work out (even though I’m on strike at the moment. That’s another story), and I have a full time job that I love. On top of that I’m also sharing my life with you , and I have some good friends, that I spend time with occasionally. So, I’m pretty fulfilled. But, I’m missing a partner to share my life with.
I want that person who is my friend and partner in crime, who also happens to love my family just as much as I do. Everyone needs someone to love. But, caregivers especially need a loving partner.
We need a person that can be our strength when we feel weak, and our voice of reason when we’re off track. Caregiving can be so tough sometimes, and it’s not always easy to encourage yourself. Having a partner that supports, encourages, and prays for you can breathe life into our situations. It’s not always about someone paying your bills. It’s about that person being there, to help you be your best self. That’s what true love is all about.
That’s why I’m ready to jump back into the “dating pool”. I’m ready for my partner. I’m ready to open heart, and give the right person a chance to share my world. I’m not too sure how to go about that. So, I’m putting it out there in the universe, and I’m ready to receive.
I don’t know where this is going to take me. But, I’m glad you’re on the journey with me. Also, please share any advice you have on dating with kids or as a caregiver. Finding love can take a village, and I’m ready for some folks to guide my journey.
Happy New Year everyone! We’re two days into 2016, and I’m so excited. I’m excited about the promise the year is going to bring. I know that sounds like the typical thing someone would be saying two days into the New Year. But, I’m truly expecting 2016 to be amazing. I’m making a conscious effort to leave fear, crazy, bitterness in the rearview of last year, and here’s some tips to help you join me.
But, first a quick disclaimer; I don’t have all of the answers. I wish I had this “caregiving thing” locked down. But, I don’t proclaim to be an expert. I’m just a caregiver who’s been caring for her mom and sister for a combined fifteen years. So, I’m letting my “battle wounds” stand as my “street cred” . So, here are some of the top tips I’ve learned.
Happy Holidays everyone! I hope you’ve had a great time filled with family, friends, laughter, and lots of food . I can’t believe Christmas has come and gone, and now we’re about to celebrate a new year.
2015 has really gone by quickly. But, it’s definitely been a year I won’t forget. How about you? As I sit here and reflect briefly on all the things I’ve experienced this year, I’m blessed to have gotten one of the most special “gifts” that I’ve ever received. This was the year that I realized that people have my back.